I am 39 years old and I have one son. He is the product of 3 and a half years of hard work and heartache, during which time I sometimes wondered whether we would ever get there. I always thought that I would have children, one day, but time and circumstances didn’t seem to be on my side. I am a sufferer of recurrent miscarriage. I’ve been pregnant 4 times in as many years. The first three were missed miscarriages (where the mc is only discovered by ultrasound scan). The first two (November 2011 and May 2012) reached just over 6 weeks and heartbeats were seen in previous scans (undertaken due to spotting) on both occasions. Then, nothing. The third was in June 2013, another mmc at a 13 week routine scan. That time, we had seen a good heartbeat at 9.1 weeks and really thought we might have made it.

The good news is that there’s nothing wrong with me (well, except for all the dead babies, obviously). I know this to be true because I have had every single test there is, and I am within ‘normal’ ranges for all of them.

This is my story. I hope that it will help others who find themselves in this situation to make some sense of it, and maybe know what to do and what questions to ask whilst negotiating all the NHS and beyond has to offer.

UPDATE: I’m now pregnant again and doing well (19 weeks at the time of writing – end January 2015). I’ve gone with the Coventry Implantation Clinic protocol of progesterone from positive test and then an early scan to determine that it wasn’t ectopic, followed by daily heparin injections. I also had several early reassurance scans. I stopped the heparin after a successful 12 week scan and weaned myself gradually off the progesterone over the course of about 10 days to avoid a sudden drop in hormones. It can be very difficult to get treatment if you don’t have a conventional diagnosis, but I am convinced that this treatment is what made it work for me. I wouldn’t be surprised if this type of treatment becomes more widely available once more research has been completed and findings published.

UPDATED UPDATE: Our long awaited baby boy was delivered by emergency c-section at 33.6 weeks. We’re all fine, although our son spent 17 days in the neonatal unit. The reason for the early delivery was a series of increasingly heavy bleeds from 26.6 weeks. The cause was that the placenta was coming away, and coming apart. I don’t know whether this was part of my RMC issues, which I believe were also related to poor placental development. I guess we’ll never know the exact cause. The main thing is, this story has a happy ending. I hope that those who have found my blog who are experiencing RMC find some hope that happy endings are possible, even if your journey is long.


16 thoughts on “About

  1. Thanks for following The Savvy Senorita, I appreciate it. I am lost for words as to what to say regarding your situation, but my heart goes out to you (not out of pity either). You show great strength and fortitude, and wanting to raise the issue of miscarriage, and your experiences for others to draw help and comfort from, is a lovely thing to do. I wish you well, and all the best for a bright and happy future. Love and light to you, Bex

    • Thank you so much for your kind words. Believe me, I’m not always strong, but I do feel like I would have wanted something like this to read 3 years ago, so hopefully I can help others now. Best wishes. X

      • No need to thank me, not at all, my pleasure entirely. Well, I’m certain you are far stronger than you know, even when you think you’re not. With this blog, I think you will be of great help to others, no doubts there. All the best, and take care of yourself. X

  2. I just wanted to say how moving your words are having been through a similar history of miscarriages. I’m so sorry for your losses and hope your dreams come true, you are very brave to share such painful experiences, please try and keep your chin up. I know you said you have had all the tests- did those include APS etc? Have you been referred to St Mary’s? Sorry to ask if the answer is yes, just wanted to make sure.x

    • Hi eggless, thank you for taking the time to read and comment. Yes, I’ve had all the tests St Marys have to offer and more, and I’m in the 50% unexplained group. I will blog in more detail about my testing experiences soon. Thanks for asking, though. Hope you get your happy ending , too. X

  3. Thanks for writing this blog. We had a mc recently – our first one – and some of the things that have gone through my head I have been unable to put words to. Reading your blog I realise that a lot of that is normal. I hope there are rainbows in the future for both of us and all the other women in this position xxxx
    also, I added your blog to my links. Would love if you’d do the same x

    • Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment. I’m sorry to read of your loss, but glad I was able to help you feel ‘normal’ 🙂 I’ll be happy to follow your blog and it will pop up on the side bar of my page. I look forward to following your story. Good luck! X

  4. I’ve just found your blog and wanted to let you know how sorry I am for your losses. I have now lost two pregnancies, at 19 weeks and 13 weeks, and it certainly isn’t easier the second time around. Wishing you peace and strength.

  5. Pingback: things about miscarriage no. 25: the two week wait. | things about miscarriage

  6. Your blog is so inspiring. I too have suffered miscarriages and am passionate about sharing honest stories and giving hope to others. I am building a website focused on sharing stories of pregnancy loss to parenthood to help bring hope to others. If you would be interested in writing your story to share on the site, please email me at alittlerayofsunshineinfo@gmail.com. I would be happy to also post a link to your blog at the end of the story. The site is alittlerayofsunshine.today. It is still in the editing stage, but feel free to browse around. Congratulations to you and thank you for offering a voice for this experience.

    • Hi Michelle, thank you for your kind words. Your website looks like a great idea, and I’d definitely be interested. I’ll email you when I’m on my laptop. Maybe Mark Zukerberg could also contribute?! So good to see people breaking the taboo. 🙂

  7. Hi great to read your journey and sorry for your losses. It is so helpful to read from other woman who have been through recurrent miscarriages and to here of your success as well. Can I ask you a few questions ? I have had four miscarriages in the last year and my last one I was under UCLH and they will probably refer me to the recurrent miscarriage clinic at UCLH. My GP is near paddington and I have read loads about the st Mary’s clinic being the one to go to. Do you have experience of both these clinics ? What were you reasons for choosing st Mary’s over UCLH (if you were given the option). Also I feel that I can not tackle another pregnancy without some medical intervention even if it just has a placebo effect on me. How did you manage to get things prescribed, like you mentioned the Coventry implantation protocol. I know a lot of the NHS hospitals will not prescribe progeterone etc. I suspect there is not much wrong with me, although I can not be sure but I can not face getting pregnant again without some form of medical support. I have read up on a lot of the private obs but it’s a bit of a minefield. I am lucky I should get some tests on NHS but what if all normal….Any experience. would be helpful, thanks

    • Hi, thank you. I’m sorry to hear of your losses, too.
      I’m on my phone so I’ll be brief, but I hope I can help answer your questions.
      I never used uchl for RMC investigations, only for resolving issues after my 2nd mc with erpcs, and also my erpc after mc #3. They were very good, and their epau is brilliant.
      I went for RMC investigations at St Mary’s after #3, and I was able to get my GP to send me there even though I don’t live near by, so I don’t think that’s an issue. They are good for immunology issues and blood clotting disorders, and for correction of any anatomical issues. Worth getting checked out by them. I had a septum removed but no blood or immune issues, so no drugs prescribed. Like you, I didn’t feel confident to go without next time.
      I ended up self referring to Coventry (£360) for uNK cell checks. All were normal, but they did prescribe progesterone and heparin. St Mary’s and Coventry don’t agree with each other’s methods, and will tell you so. They certainty won’t recommend each other.
      My belief is that Coventry worked for me, but further official research would be needed in future to fully verify the effectiveness of their approach. I’m convinced, naturally, but not everyone is.
      I wish you all the best; let me know how you get on, if you like and don’t mind? X

  8. Hi thanks so much for taking the time to answer. It is such a minefield at a time when you are emotionally vulnerable and even the thought of trying again feels like a very daunting process. I expect that it will be the next 6 months before any tests are completed. I am nearly 40’so feeling the age : ) I have read up on the Coventry research and I am game for anything, especially as they rule out things that st Mary’s are not into. When reading around there seems to be two camps re the uNK. At the end of the day I would just like a sibling for my son and chance with another little one. ! I think I will get my GP to refer me to st Mary’s and take it from there. I will let you know as the journey continues. Thanks for answering

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s